I was reading this letter once done by Jennifer Aniston, about a woman’s true value, and I felt like throwing a double shot of something her way, because I love what she wrote! Jennifer acted as Rachael in the hilarious ‘FRIENDS’ series which I watch over and over. Can someone suggest a similar series already?

Women have, since time immemorial, been objectified and subjected to lots of scrutiny by the society. A woman’s value is usually based on her marital and maternal status and she gets a lot of pressure to conform to what is ‘right’ and ‘acceptable’. There is the notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful or unhappy if they are not married and with children.

Young girls grow up with that mentality, that they need to go through a system whereby they grow up, go to school, get a job, get married, get children and then the so called system comes to a halt, and they don’t know what to do with the rest of their lives. No one defines what comes after that, and many struggle to find out who they are, and what their purpose in life is, now that the so called ‘system’ has ended. So they end up burying their heads in motherhood, careers, in churches and so on.

Those who don’t manage to go through all the steps, feel incomplete, of less value or completely insignificant.

Here is Jennifer’s conclusion, which I totally agree with:

We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look up to us as examples. Let’s make the decision consciously, outside the society ‘noise’. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete, it’s not really the ultimate goal. We get to determine our own ‘happily ever after for ourselves.’

Choose to live, while you are still alive.

Bright And Beautiful

It’s a wrap! The year is over and looking back, I’m grateful for so much. If I started counting my blessings, I would need all day to do so. It came with its challenges, which they say is a way of growing. I learnt so much in those few 12months and grew immensely.

Some of my greatest lessons have been:

Self love
You have got to be your own greatest fan and treat yourself as such. Most of the times we are weighed down by our problems, obligations, duties and we find ourselves choked, unable to enjoy the free fresh air. Life moves so fast, if you don’t stop to appreciate it, you will wish you did and it might be too late.

Worry Less
It’s so human to worry, but then again it never helps any situation. You end up stressed and it affects your health, well being and spills over to the people around you.  All you need is bit of faith and some few actions and in the end, it all works out well.

Peace of mind
It may sound cliché, but having a peaceful mind is worth more than silver and gold. Need I say more?

It’s ok to be ‘wrong’
The society expects us to behave in a certain way; it is ok to follow your own different way as long as it is a right one. The expectations are higher on the woman and it can bring her so much pressure and oppression. We do not need to conform to the perceived social norm; times have changed and some adjustments come in handy. That doesn’t necessarily make us hard headed; it’s our way of liberal expression.

Be yourself
There can only be one you in your lifetime, and living as you is the best feeling ever. You don’t have to pretend to be what you are not. If you like dancing (like I do), go ahead and break your bones on the dance floor. If you like your whiskey on the rocks, (again, like I do) no need pretending that a glass of wine is all you do. Knock yourself out. Do not live your life in pretence trying to please others, just be you.

I could go on and on, but let me pause and present to you a bright combination of hot pink skater dress and luminous green crop sweater with a hot orange strappy shoe! It’s a HOT Christmas! Dare to combine bright pieces as long as they harmonize. The dress is casual but you can tone it down with different blazers, as seen on my photos and rock the office just fine. Minimal jewelry is ideal as the colors are loud.

Such a chic look!
Merry Christmas!


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