I was reading this letter once done by Jennifer Aniston, about a woman’s true value, and I felt like throwing a double shot of something her way, because I love what she wrote! Jennifer acted as Rachael in the hilarious ‘FRIENDS’ series which I watch over and over. Can someone suggest a similar series already?
Women have, since time immemorial, been objectified and subjected to lots of scrutiny by the society. A woman’s value is usually based on her marital and maternal status and she gets a lot of pressure to conform to what is ‘right’ and ‘acceptable’. There is the notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful or unhappy if they are not married and with children.
Young girls grow up with that mentality, that they need to go through a system whereby they grow up, go to school, get a job, get married, get children and then the so called system comes to a halt, and they don’t know what to do with the rest of their lives. No one defines what comes after that, and many struggle to find out who they are, and what their purpose in life is, now that the so called ‘system’ has ended. So they end up burying their heads in motherhood, careers, in churches and so on.
Those who don’t manage to go through all the steps, feel incomplete, of less value or completely insignificant.
Here is Jennifer’s conclusion, which I totally agree with:
‘We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look up to us as examples. Let’s make the decision consciously, outside the society ‘noise’. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete, it’s not really the ultimate goal. We get to determine our own ‘happily ever after for ourselves.’
Choose to live, while you are still alive.