Of a constitution that we never read…

So now we are in a political quagmire..(damn it! I’ve always wanted to use that word somewhere)…

You see, this 8-4-4 system that most of us middle class Kenyans passed through, taught us how to pass exams, and passing we did, with flying colors. The constitution came, and we passed it without reading it because really, we didn’t see the need to read it; we had other ‘important’ things to do.

I remember there were booklets all over and it was even published on the newspaper, but what did we do? Tulifunga nyama nayo…see our lives now..

We are running like headless chickens trying to learn what the constitution actually says, with everyone quoting their own things.

It reminds me of the Bible which the white man brought us but we never bothered reading and when we do, we pick the parts that suit our situations best.

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Welcome to my tales, my new segment of nothing serious, …really..

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Mind Reset

“Why do you work out?

 You are not fat. You look fit!

Your body looks ok.

Why do you need Zumba? I am the one who should be working out……..”

I have been getting a lot of this from my friends when I mention that I do work out.

You see, I don’t go for Zumba to keep fit, to stay healthy or to lose weight; in fact, I have to feed really well to maintain my weight, otherwise it drops drastically after a few classes. I do Zumba solely to refresh/ reset my mind. The other benefits are an added advantage like keeping fit, healthy living, toning especially the bum (the twerking we do could give Rihanna a run for her money) and so on.

Zumba is a musical work out, with lots of dancing and with my love for dancing, it’s just what the doctor would recommend to rejuvenate my mind……well, until I get an opportunity to explore my other interest in pole dancing, which intrigues my mind and is in my bucket list (don’t give me that judgmental look, judgement is for judgement day).

The activities in our daily lives can be overwhelming and you can easily get bogged down. From careers, to families, to businesses, politics and so on. There’s just a lot that requires your attention and many times you feel like you need 5 of you to execute everything accordingly. You hear of people who succumb to depression, which you thought is a white man’s disease.

Some people die while they are still alive, and they live a cycle or robotic kind of life, following a schedule. A month passes and once in a while they come alive and ask: ‘haiya, where did time go’, then they die again and live like that for many years. It’s very easy to live like this, and not even realize that you stopped living.

Just like the electronics in our houses need resetting, our minds need that too. We have to keep refreshing our mind, so as to operate at optimum level, given that it is our central processing unit. We don’t want it ‘overheating’. This is where an activity you love comes in; could be jogging, a walk in the park, swimming, singing, just something different and sustainable that your mind looks forward to every so often. It rejuvenates and refreshes the mind, giving it a break from the norm and that, re centers it.

Find your ‘thing’ and help your mind to reset.

Incomplete

I was reading this letter once done by Jennifer Aniston, about a woman’s true value, and I felt like throwing a double shot of something her way, because I love what she wrote! Jennifer acted as Rachael in the hilarious ‘FRIENDS’ series which I watch over and over. Can someone suggest a similar series already?

Women have, since time immemorial, been objectified and subjected to lots of scrutiny by the society. A woman’s value is usually based on her marital and maternal status and she gets a lot of pressure to conform to what is ‘right’ and ‘acceptable’. There is the notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful or unhappy if they are not married and with children.

Young girls grow up with that mentality, that they need to go through a system whereby they grow up, go to school, get a job, get married, get children and then the so called system comes to a halt, and they don’t know what to do with the rest of their lives. No one defines what comes after that, and many struggle to find out who they are, and what their purpose in life is, now that the so called ‘system’ has ended. So they end up burying their heads in motherhood, careers, in churches and so on.

Those who don’t manage to go through all the steps, feel incomplete, of less value or completely insignificant.

Here is Jennifer’s conclusion, which I totally agree with:

We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let’s make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look up to us as examples. Let’s make the decision consciously, outside the society ‘noise’. We don’t need to be married or mothers to be complete, it’s not really the ultimate goal. We get to determine our own ‘happily ever after for ourselves.’

Choose to live, while you are still alive.

Grateful

I am sitting here on a Sunday night, the time is 11.16pm to be precise, (I am such a night owl) trying to come up with words for my blog though feeling so burned out. I t reminds me of what I watch in the movies where people write, then tear the papers and throw them away, write again, throw it again until they come up with something solid..

You see, I’ve been meaning to pour my heart out (why does that sound romantic..) to my readers just to say thank you for following me on my blog, Facebook and Instagram accounts. Writing, taking pictures and posting them on social media is one thing, but having people who actually follow and like my work, is another.

I have been meeting some of you at the shop, as you come to buy clothes and you point out that you’ve been reading my posts since I began writing, way before I even opened the shop. That, right there is the fuel that keeps me moving. Knowing that I am actually touching someone’s life, even in my own small ways; it’s astounding and I am grateful to each one of you.

My mission is to help the ordinary woman dress up in a way that boosts her confidence and makes her to go out and conquer the world! You don’t need to be rich or of a certain skin color, size or shape to look good; anyone can look glamorous.

Clothes make a strong visual statement about how you see yourself and contribute in your productivity. They say: “Don’t judge a book by its cover” , but then again designers and marketers around the world have created an industry betting that people do judge and purchase products based on how they look.

Let’s keep walking together and I promise to share a lot more of my style, from my closet.

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Our contact: 0724 837 840

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I DO

So, on Friday I walked down the aisle!

……only that several other people walked in after me, and finally the bride walked in and said I DO!

It was my friend’s wedding; dang!

You see, I am a typical girl who dreams of a dream wedding; I have the song I will walk down to in my mind, I know how my gown will look like, I know you will all listen to country music the whole afternoon session and you better come prepared to dance, and I mean a lot! I am just waiting for the day..and the groom; we can call that waiting upon the Lord, right? Ha ha ha

Marriage is a beautiful thing and my friend’s wedding was simple and awesome. The theme was African and I got the pleasure of owning my second African print dress. (I am not into African prints or anything contemporary).

The design I chose complimented my body shape and was simple and elegant, my style. At least I will get to wear it many more times, starting from this coming Easter holiday as I go to visit my grandma (she will definitely be proud of me, dressed in a ‘womanly’ dress covered from head to toe).

The last time I went to visit her, of course still in a dress (anything else –namely trousers- gets her very vexed), she asked me to turn around to see if I had been feeding well ( Really?..) and she gave me a thumbs up. I might need to overfeed and gain some weight seeing that I have shed some kgs recently.

Here are some of the pictures of the dress:

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